As well as being an adoptee myself I am also the 51 year old late blooming mother of a beautiful, much wanted and hoped for adopted three year old son. Adopting my son was the conclusion of a long, deeply meaningful and epic journey and a new beginning. Finally becoming a mother has brought me complete untold joy.

Whilst I have blossomed into this new journey of motherhood, I have also faced another ending and a new beginning, that of passing through menopause, the end of fertility and entering into a new stage of my life. My blog therefore is really not just about being a late-blooming mama but what it means to be a woman blossoming into my ‘wise woman’ years. Learning for myself how to embrace it not as a time of fear and endings but of truly coming into the full ripeness of myself as a woman.

With my professional background in Aromatherapy, Natural Skin Care, Health and Holistic Therapies and with my own superficial fears of looking like ‘grandma’ at the school gates (!), I want to explore and ultimately celebrate a more positive vision of timeless, naturally glowing, radiant late- blooming beauty, which has less to do with the wrinkles on your face and more to do with a twinkle in your eye! Also to explore how I can achieve the boundless energy and shining health I will need to enjoy every moment of my son growing up, live as long and as I can as an older mother and achieve other dreams I have for myself moving forward.

Most important though my aim is to inspire myself and other wonderful late-blooming women (of which there are many) to look positively at this next stage of our lives and see it as a time of blossoming into our most vibrant, beautiful, creative, authentic, 'wise woman' selves.




Sunday, 12 February 2012

Nine simple secrets for a long, happy and healthy life from the 'Village of Eternal Youth'

Simple Pleasures

' I came to Camodimele hoping 
I might learn how to live longer, 
but discovered something much 
more important- how to live well'



We all want to live long and healthy lives but, if you are like me, the wealth of information out there as to what actually constitutes a healthy optimum diet can feel overwhelming! In the last few years,whilst pursuing a diet to optimise fertility, I discovered that interest in a raw food way of eating had blossomed and was becoming an increasingly more popular choice amongst nutritionist and optimum health and longevity seekers.  

The arguments as to why this is the optimum diet are absolutely sound. In simple terms unlike all others animals, apart from domesticated pets, we eat our food cooked. It makes no sense on many levels to cook food as we destroy many of the enzymes, vitamins, minerals and macro and micro nutrients available to us. A live food bursting with nutritional goodness is transformed into a dead depleted version of its true self .The raw food diet/living food is about eating fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, wild edible greens, sprouts, superfoods (which includes raw chocolate!) and herbs and oils in their raw unprocessed form. Raw food cuisine has burst onto the health scene all over the world with a wealth of information, delicious recipes, restaurants (check out London and Brighton!) and even raw food coaches are available to help you transition to a high raw way of eating.  I am completely sold that for optimum health, healing, glowing skin and eyes, vitality and boundless energy this diet is the ultimate. 

I would thoroughly recommend (if this subject interests you) that you begin with Karen Knowler on her website www.therawfoodcoach.com

HOWEVER !! 


Whilst agreeing that including lots of raw/ living foods into our diet is the best way forward, I also became aware that all of the long living cultures in the world do include cooked food in their diet as well. I want to eat healthily and well but I do want some flexibility to include and enjoy cooked foods and various cuisines. I don't want it to be about strict denial nor becoming obsessive.


 So what are the simple rules about diet which experts agree on and which all longer living communities throughout the world (who often eat different foods because of whats available in their particular environment) share in common.Let me introduce you to our very own long living cousins living on a hyper Mediterranean diet in a village in the mountains of Italy!

'La Montagna ti da tutto'  The mountain gives you everything



I am enchanted by Italy. It is a place that warms my heart and makes all my senses come alive. Its not just about the beauty of its landscapes, its extraordinarily rich cultural heritage, its architecture, its stunning works of art but its about the people and lifestyle. A zest and passion for life, a love of family, a value in friendship , a joy in simple pleasures and a cuisine for which they are famed.

  So with my love of good food, my interest in healthy living combined with my love of  Italy I was delighted to discover the book ' A Year in the Village of Eternity' by Tracy Lawson. Campodimele is  a village perched high in the Italian Mountains. Made famous in Europe for the long and vital life of its inhabitants the people remain extraordinarily active into their eighties and beyond with the average live expectancy being 95. Tracy lived amongst the villagers for a few years and was welcomed into the hearts and homes. She shared their lives, was taught their recipes (nutritious, simple and tasty, perfect!) and how they prepared and preserved their food. She learnt about their deep connection to the land, respect of the seasons ' Ogni cosa ha il suo momento' (everything has its time) and their approach to life. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/8627933/The-secrets-to-a-long-life.html


Aaaah to sample the local olive oil that 'tastes like the scent of the mountains on a warm summer days - fruity, grassy, perhaps a hint of herbs, strong and distinctive' 


So what can we learn from the villagers about the 'Cibo Genuino' genuine food that they prize so highly and their tips for longevity and abundant health and happiness.


  • Eat locally grown produce that is organic and in season. The people of Campodimele grow much of their own produce on land that is free from chemicals, harvested at the peak of perfection and eaten in season. They do use preserving techniques to store their produce but living by their rules of Cibo Genuino  means that is preserved using natural techniques without chemicals, such as freezing or in olive oil, natural salt etc. They eat their fruits and vegetables raw and cooked but they eat lots of them. So to follow their example eat an abundance of colourful fruits and vegetables. Make these the heart of your diet. Learn to make smoothies and explore the world of juicing. Really enjoy natures abundance but always choose, local organic and in season when you can  and if not frozen berries out of season are great for smoothies! Better still learn to grow your own or source a good supplier locally.  
  • Eat Wild Edibles. The people of Campodimele have a philosophy that the mountain will provide and harvest fresh green edibles all year round. They also include a simple green salad in their diet everyday. Green and most particularly wild greens pack a power punch of nutrition and they are the best secret to great health. Again an easy way to get more of those into your diet is through green smoothies and juices. A wonderful start would be to access the work of Victoria Boutenco and her green smoothie revolution (!) and her son Sergei who is an expert on picking and living on wild green edibles.www.rawfamily.com
  • Drink clean mountain water . Difficult to access I know! So when possible choose spring water as much as you can, preferably from organic land in glass bottles unless you can find a local supplier!! I know its expensive but good clean water is absolutely vital to our health.
  • Breathe clean air, free of air pollution.Try to get out into nature, into the woods, by the beach, climb some hills and breathe deeply as much as you can right from your belly!
  • Eat meat, eggs and dairy that is free range and from lean, healthy animals. The people of Campodimele eat chicken, wild boar and hare that live wild in the mountains and free range oily fish from coastal area nearby. Meat is also limited and lots of legumes are eaten by the locals which are high in protein and low in saturated fat. If you choose to eat meat or fish always choose free range/wild and organic and limit your consumption 

  • Simplify your life and reduce your stress. Really prioritise whats truly important
.....and relax
  • Take lots of physical activity. Walk, cycle, run, swim, skip, dance, play sport, do yoga, just do lots of it particularly outside and enjoy moving your body.
  • Find a sense of belonging and community. Cultivate friendships. Build family bonds. Live with passion and purpose. Become part of the community, local and global through others with shared interests.
  • Find a sense of spiritual connection. Cultivate inner peace and connectedness in whatever way sings to your soul.
  • Recognise your connection to nature Cutivate a respect for the earth, for animals, the seasons and living in harmony with natures rythmes.
There is no place for processed acidic chemical and additive laden foods and drinks. The food is produced in soil free from pesticides and nourished with clean pure water. They eat the food within hours of it being harvested or use natural methods to preserve their food. They prepare food that is a delight to the senses, is simple and highly nutritious.They do drink coffee, they do enjoy wine but not too much. They live low stress lives, connected to the land, the seasons, their family, community and their God. 


That is the simple secret to a  healthy happy and active life until very old age Campodimele style. 


I raise a glass to that :)





Tuesday, 24 January 2012

Celebrating my Birthday and 'La Dolce Vita'

The fabulous Juliette Binoche
This Saturday I will reach the fully ripened and rather grown up age of 47.

To celebrate my birthday here are some rather delicious celebrities who also share my birthday this year. I raise a glass of something sparkly to them, to me and to all you other luscious late blooming lovelies out there blossoming in your forties and beyond!

Courteney Cox

Sandra Bullock

Monica Belluci


On the theme of blossoming in your forties and beyond, I have been inspired by a beautiful book I am reading at the moment called ' A Year in the Village of Eternity' by Tracy Lawson. It chronicles the time she spent amongst the people of a mountain village of Campodimele in Italy known as 'Il Paese della Longevita' or 'The Village of Longevity', where the average life expectancy of both men and woman is ninety-five.

Me enjoying
simple Tuscan pleasures :)
Filled with wonderful recipes and mouth-watering descriptions of their local dishes, all made with the freshest ingredients, sourced locally. The dishes are simple, flavoursome, nutritious and lovingly prepared. It describes their strong connection to the land and the 'warmth, friendship and feste' of these healthy, fit, long-living mountain people.

Like Tracy I am not a scientist or a doctor but have a keen interest in nutrition. I have listened intently to many experts and teachers in the field of optimum health over the last few years particularly in the raw food community. There are different schools of thought but through the confusion some very basic truths have emerged. 

Many of the longer living cultures throughout the world have varying diets depending on their environment and food availability but there are some very strong linking factors and truths about the quality of their food, lifestyle, environment and their connection to the land that just can't be ignored. It is also as much about what their diets don't include as to what they do.

I would like to look at these factors in my next blog but the most important gift Tracy Lawson was given from living with the community was not just learning about longevity.

"I came to Campodimele hoping to learn how to live longer and discovered something much more important-how to live well "

Here's to health, happiness and a long, joyful, adventure filled life!

Cheers!!

PS To those with a good memory the 'Green Smoothie Challenge' was put on hold due to my performing in a play in the last week. Certainly not a great time to consider a cleanse! However the resources were great, green smoothies are now being made and I will definitely look at doing it (or at least version of it) in spring or early summer. 



Cheers!!

Tuesday, 3 January 2012

Intentions, Green Smoothies and beyond!!



Hello my lovelies and 'Happy New Year' everyone!

After my last couple of blogs stating my intentions for 'Blossoming'and sharing my own personal journey I realised it was time to get practical! Aaah now there's a challenge! I am naturally an idealist and dreamer at heart and take great delight in having the glorious, beautiful vision to leap majestically towards. Trying to inspire and encourage others along the way with all the positive possibilities....I am thankful for having tolerant friends! Having creative vision is certainly important (looking at my vision board fills my heart with joy) but actually taking action is vital! The importance of finding pleasure in the step by step on the journey and being able to focus and immerse oneself into one thing at a time....now that's the key. Having clarity and focus whilst holding the vision.This is my life challenge too and an important one!

To this end and having filled my mind, several notebooks and my email subscription list with so many voices on the subject of raw and living foods, health, spirituality, growing and marketing an authentic heart centred business etc etc..over the last few years I decided to take stock! We get so overloaded and bombarded that at times it feels difficult to think straight! I end up feeling overwhelmed, unfocused and suffering from a mild form of ADD! My decision was only to include those voices and websites that inspire, excite and uplift me and that will truly support where I am wanting to develop this year personally and professionally. Another factor to my choice was their level of integrity, authenticity and most importantly heart.

So with the step by step in mind, I looked at how I was going to begin my journey of implementing all I had learnt and truly begin my journey in earnest towards becoming the glowing, energetic, creative, connected blossoming/ripening  'wise' woman I aim to be! With previous fits and starts on this journey  in the past I feel it is important that I use my knowledge now for lasting change.If that helps others too that would be wonderful :)

Luckily I sprung upon the very thing I was looking for a couple of days back. A 21 day 'Green Smoothie Challenge' with the very delightful Tera Warner which is to start properly tomorrow. She has a fabulous and supportive website which is well worth a visit http://www.terawarner.com. Tera and her team will be supporting me and others on this challenge and I will journal my experience including any other information I have learnt or gathered. Yes, you lucky lot that may also include my previous forays into the world of colonics!


As a side note I also recommend signing up to the next Wish Summit she will be holding this year filled with some fantastic inspiring speakers. You can check it out  and sign up at http://www.wishsummit.com (its free) and I  heartily recommend it! 

Detox is a much banded about phrase nowadays. However, done properly, a real system cleanse can be a powerful tool for healing and rejuvenation.I have been interested in the power of fasting for many years. I did achieve it on my own for three days (some people do it for far longer) and treated myself to a juice fast at a Nature Cure Clinic many moons ago....funster that I am! I know that the results can be astounding but fasting is quite hardcore and there are some rather unpleasant side effects that can be experienced during the detox process.

Mmmm tasty!

 More popular (and certainly far more appealing to me) is cleansing the body using the power of raw green goodness, in the form of luscious green smoothies or by feasting on juices. This still allows the digestive system to rest and cleansing to take place but by soaking your cells with delicious nutritious elixirs to feed and nourish them, many of the side effects felt during a fast are reduced or greatly eliminated. People can continue with their day to day life,whilst still feeling bright eyed, energetic and amazing too. Green smoothie/juice feasts of up to three months are not considered unusual for the very experienced.

Cleansing the body and resting the digestive system has some amazing benefits and I will let you what I hope to achieve and how I get on (the ups and downs!) on my smoothie challange journey!

Tera also encouraged us to set down our intentions for the coming year in a variety of areas in our lives so in the spirit of openess and to keep me focused I have put mine up.... although a couple required me to be quite brave! Please read if you feel so inspired. There is a link to this page at the side of my blog  where it says 'pages'. Please feel free to list yours too in the comment box. I really hope this blog will be all about sharing and support.

Here's to a wonderful 2012 to all you beautiful blossomers out there.

Much love xx